Monday, January 5, 2015

Friendships have been on my mind a lot lately. It is so strange to me that even after 22 years of living I still have a hard time realizing that friendships come and go. I mean, this is something I have dealt with my whole life, and something I always was able to remember when things just weren't right anymore. I think this time it is different, because I see friendships fading that I never thought would. I feel hurt, but I know it isn't their fault. Friendships come and go, and you can't always be in charge of the going.

Ever since Zac and I got engaged I have seen a shift in my friendships. There are those friendships that have become closer and more intimate, and then there are friendships that have slowly started to disintegrate. For a while I was so angry about this. I didn't understand what had changed, and why things had changed so quickly. I started noticing that all effort of rekindling these somehow broken relationships was on my shoulders, and I was caring all the weight.

I guess the new year came with a new perspective in realizing that even though I thought nothing had changed, things indeed had. I am getting married this year. I am moving on in my life. I am opening a new chapter, and things are going to be different. Being married is different than being someones boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a solid relationship. Although Zac and I had always talked about getting married with our friends it is a whole different scenario now that it is a reality.

So I guess I would just like to say thank you to those friends that have stuck by. I am so excited to share the next year with you! I know this is going to be a year to remember. I feel like I have always valued my friendships, but going through this experience has shed a new light on how truly important my friendships are to me. This year I am going to strive to be a better friend, and to make more time for them in my life.

For those friendships that have faded, all I can say is every single person in my life has impacted me in such incredible ways. I have been so blessed to know such amazing humans, and I understand that sometimes lifestyles change, and with that friendships change as well. I am so grateful for the friends that were such a big part of my life in 2014, and I hope that I will always remember that.

So here is to a new year. A year of continuing friendships growing stronger, and hopefully some new ones along the way.


  1. i'm so sorry that this has happened shelby! things are like that sometimes..and it sucks. but i'm with ya! this is going to be a GREAT year! xoxoxox

    1. girl, i am so happy i met you! you always brighten my day! you are seriously the greatest, and it really is going to be the best year ever!

  2. Friendship became somewhat of a riddle to me after getting engaged. It's funny because I figured it wouldn't be any different. We spent time with people before we were engaged, why would this be different? But it is. Your priorities change, you start focusing on building a life together. Which is no small feat! Now that we've been married a few years, I think we've been able to find a balance. We're in a bowling league with another couple and I take yoga and an art class while he jams with his buddies. It's definitely more work to maintain friendships after you find your ultimate friendship (AKA: marriage! :), but it all works itself out. I'm sure you know that. I'm not trying to lecture you haha just sharing thoughts! Congratulations again :)


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